Well, "boring" is the attitude of the viewer. Some people find everything boring even in the middle of the merriment in an exotic location. Others find watching a tiny wildflower exciting. I liked your musing on the topic. Being two decades older than you, I find that having the kind of peace of heart and acceptance as you have is a fabulous state to be in a life.
I'm so pleased for you that you've discovered this while you're young and have the courage to live by it, and I relate to it all. It is far from boring, but is quite an adventure! Sadly it took me a long time to realise that a quiet, simple, life, living close to nature, was what I was always longing for.
This is so relatable Molly. I'm 51, I've always dreaded large gatherings, parties and enforced fun. I enjoy 1:1 coffee time with a friend once in a while, but I don't like having a calendar full of things I have to do. I used to feel embarrassed at having nothing much to talk about, but as I've got older I just don't care as much. If anyone says I have a boring life I just say "that's a shame you think that, but isn't it wonderful that we are all different." We all have stories to tell, if we wish to. Have a lovely day Molly. X
You are my kinda person.I too have always preferred the quiet life,connected to nature far away from the fake world.That is not boring it's living a real life.
As soon as I embraced a slower, quieter life and listened to my natural instincts, I unlocked a whole other side of myself and my life - boring doesn’t equal bad, it actually equals peace, balance, calm, joy, curiosity and gratitude.
I love my boring little life. Thank you for sharing this Molly.
Emily, I love your verbiage - "listened to my natural instincts." I feel my absolute best when I do this, with the occasional soul and body-stretching adventure. But to live from a place of natural instinct and not force is contentment.
I couldn’t relate to this more. I’m also HSP and I love having an empty calendar, otherwise I get overwhelmed. It means so much to me that you shared this. I also feel a little embarrassed to admit I’m not a holiday person either when I’m around my friends who travel all over the world. I find the airport and the getting there and back just takes away from the holiday experience anyway. A shepherd’s hut is my idea of bliss!
"Boring", surely not. As Hemingway reminds me, "I can't stand it to think my life is going so fast and I'm not really living it."
Boring is commuting to a job that you hate, in a car you can't afford, to come home to a family you rarely see, and taking vacations in an attempt to cram lost years into fix or six days. Boring is the life you left behind.
You're just being deliberate in your slow, simple approach to living each day and coming into your own along life's journey. Soak it all in.
I love this piece. My life is much the same. The quiet life has always been my default with nature being a big part of my life. It is definitely not boring.
I love this honesty and acceptance, Molly. I feel the same about much that you’ve written here. My only difference is that I do like holidays, but I like it best when I can create a routine whilst I’m there. I’m currently away in France for a month both working remotely (writing) and resting. I adore the change of scenery but am also (weirdly, perhaps) enjoying the mundane things like cleaning and doing the washing because we’re here for a longer period. I’m keeping a diary and trying to notice how it feels.
I don’t think what you describe is boring, I see it as knowing yourself and your needs and not feeling the urge to conform or please others. That’s definitely to be celebrated!
Thank you for writing this Molly. It’s lovely to read more sensitive, introverted people chat about their lives in an open, inspiring and positive way.
I admire your self-acceptance and compassion which is essential for wellbeing and you’re a role model for others who seek and need a slower life.
So many sensitive people are burnt out with the demands of modern life.
On a serious note, our education system based on results and productivity does nothing to teach us growing up, how to know and care for ourselves, and our needs and how to prioritise wellbeing.
The home learning community with more space for self-directed learning allows for that and I hope your messages are heard more widely as mental health services and our education system need to transform with urgency.
I connect to and therefore support other mums/ parents healing from whole family complex trauma and follow slow living as part of our healing. My children are 23 and 17 and I hope they also feel less pressure from the demands of our hectic and rushed culture. I love the way you explain and live it in such a natural and relaxed way ❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
Oh hello there fellow ‘boring’ person 👋 l resonate with this so deeply. I too am what one consider a boring person. My days look the same. I like to limit my social interactions. And my favourite night out is a night in. The question that makes me internally eye roll is the dreaded, token small talk question: “any plans for the weekend?”. I have plans but none that you might consider exciting… and I am a-okay with that 🤗
I always hate questions like that, too. "So, what are your plans for the weekend?" I think I have extra anxiety going to things like dentist appointments because they are sure to have these questions as part of what seems to be "requisite" chatter. Like you said, I always feel a bit embarrassed to say "nothing" (even though that's how I like it). I often think my life must look incredibly boring from the outside. Enjoyed the post.
Haha, my dentist always says 'how are things? Busy...busy......' and I always have to say no, not busy at all. I know what you mean about dreading the question but I'm still very happy my life is no longer busy!
I am 47 and feel exactly the same. It’s taken quite a while to understand my need for routine, solitude and to be with nature daily (probably only the last few years). My younger life was quite different and busy and very social but I realise now I was most likely masking. I find many others just cannot relate or understand that a quiet life is a very fulfilling and happy life. I would not change things now (well I’d live more remotely if I could)!
Oh yes, I am definitely very boring 😁! Waking up at 5am,daily routine and bedtime at 9pm. I love my boring life, because I too can't handle a tight schedule. It's too exhausting and overwhelming. How very well you have put it all into words..truly relatable!
Well, "boring" is the attitude of the viewer. Some people find everything boring even in the middle of the merriment in an exotic location. Others find watching a tiny wildflower exciting. I liked your musing on the topic. Being two decades older than you, I find that having the kind of peace of heart and acceptance as you have is a fabulous state to be in a life.
I love how you've captured this, such good points! :)
Yes!! Plus whether you consider someone boring is not merely determined by their experiences, but more so, I think, by their thoughts ✨
I'm so pleased for you that you've discovered this while you're young and have the courage to live by it, and I relate to it all. It is far from boring, but is quite an adventure! Sadly it took me a long time to realise that a quiet, simple, life, living close to nature, was what I was always longing for.
Thank you for sharing Jacqui :)
This is so relatable Molly. I'm 51, I've always dreaded large gatherings, parties and enforced fun. I enjoy 1:1 coffee time with a friend once in a while, but I don't like having a calendar full of things I have to do. I used to feel embarrassed at having nothing much to talk about, but as I've got older I just don't care as much. If anyone says I have a boring life I just say "that's a shame you think that, but isn't it wonderful that we are all different." We all have stories to tell, if we wish to. Have a lovely day Molly. X
I love this! Thank you for sharing lovely :)
You are my kinda person.I too have always preferred the quiet life,connected to nature far away from the fake world.That is not boring it's living a real life.
Good luck to you and thank you.
I'm so glad you enjoyed Caroline! :)
As soon as I embraced a slower, quieter life and listened to my natural instincts, I unlocked a whole other side of myself and my life - boring doesn’t equal bad, it actually equals peace, balance, calm, joy, curiosity and gratitude.
I love my boring little life. Thank you for sharing this Molly.
Emily, I love your verbiage - "listened to my natural instincts." I feel my absolute best when I do this, with the occasional soul and body-stretching adventure. But to live from a place of natural instinct and not force is contentment.
Thank you Hayley ! I think you are so right 🙏✨
I couldn’t relate to this more. I’m also HSP and I love having an empty calendar, otherwise I get overwhelmed. It means so much to me that you shared this. I also feel a little embarrassed to admit I’m not a holiday person either when I’m around my friends who travel all over the world. I find the airport and the getting there and back just takes away from the holiday experience anyway. A shepherd’s hut is my idea of bliss!
Aw you are certainly not alone lovely! :)
"Boring", surely not. As Hemingway reminds me, "I can't stand it to think my life is going so fast and I'm not really living it."
Boring is commuting to a job that you hate, in a car you can't afford, to come home to a family you rarely see, and taking vacations in an attempt to cram lost years into fix or six days. Boring is the life you left behind.
You're just being deliberate in your slow, simple approach to living each day and coming into your own along life's journey. Soak it all in.
I so agree, thank you :)
So heart warming to read this piece as I too can relate. A calm and peaceful life fulfilled with what makes you happy. ❤️
Agreed! :)
I love this piece. My life is much the same. The quiet life has always been my default with nature being a big part of my life. It is definitely not boring.
I agree and thank you!
I love this honesty and acceptance, Molly. I feel the same about much that you’ve written here. My only difference is that I do like holidays, but I like it best when I can create a routine whilst I’m there. I’m currently away in France for a month both working remotely (writing) and resting. I adore the change of scenery but am also (weirdly, perhaps) enjoying the mundane things like cleaning and doing the washing because we’re here for a longer period. I’m keeping a diary and trying to notice how it feels.
I don’t think what you describe is boring, I see it as knowing yourself and your needs and not feeling the urge to conform or please others. That’s definitely to be celebrated!
I love the idea of creating routines when away. You get the best of both worlds :)
Thank you for writing this Molly. It’s lovely to read more sensitive, introverted people chat about their lives in an open, inspiring and positive way.
I admire your self-acceptance and compassion which is essential for wellbeing and you’re a role model for others who seek and need a slower life.
So many sensitive people are burnt out with the demands of modern life.
On a serious note, our education system based on results and productivity does nothing to teach us growing up, how to know and care for ourselves, and our needs and how to prioritise wellbeing.
The home learning community with more space for self-directed learning allows for that and I hope your messages are heard more widely as mental health services and our education system need to transform with urgency.
I connect to and therefore support other mums/ parents healing from whole family complex trauma and follow slow living as part of our healing. My children are 23 and 17 and I hope they also feel less pressure from the demands of our hectic and rushed culture. I love the way you explain and live it in such a natural and relaxed way ❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
Xx
I so agree with your points Piata, thank you! :)
Oh yes, can relate totally. This is me too. Can we replace ‘boring’ with ‘real’?
Yes!
Oh hello there fellow ‘boring’ person 👋 l resonate with this so deeply. I too am what one consider a boring person. My days look the same. I like to limit my social interactions. And my favourite night out is a night in. The question that makes me internally eye roll is the dreaded, token small talk question: “any plans for the weekend?”. I have plans but none that you might consider exciting… and I am a-okay with that 🤗
Yes! That is another common question, you're right. Love your answer :)
I always hate questions like that, too. "So, what are your plans for the weekend?" I think I have extra anxiety going to things like dentist appointments because they are sure to have these questions as part of what seems to be "requisite" chatter. Like you said, I always feel a bit embarrassed to say "nothing" (even though that's how I like it). I often think my life must look incredibly boring from the outside. Enjoyed the post.
I'm glad you enjoyed Amy and I'm sure you're weekends are lovely :)
Haha, my dentist always says 'how are things? Busy...busy......' and I always have to say no, not busy at all. I know what you mean about dreading the question but I'm still very happy my life is no longer busy!
YES to the weekend question 👏. Why do I feel the need to lie when someone asks this???
I am 47 and feel exactly the same. It’s taken quite a while to understand my need for routine, solitude and to be with nature daily (probably only the last few years). My younger life was quite different and busy and very social but I realise now I was most likely masking. I find many others just cannot relate or understand that a quiet life is a very fulfilling and happy life. I would not change things now (well I’d live more remotely if I could)!
Yes, daily nature is so important!
Oh yes, I am definitely very boring 😁! Waking up at 5am,daily routine and bedtime at 9pm. I love my boring life, because I too can't handle a tight schedule. It's too exhausting and overwhelming. How very well you have put it all into words..truly relatable!
Thank you love! :)