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Terje Äkke's avatar

Well, "boring" is the attitude of the viewer. Some people find everything boring even in the middle of the merriment in an exotic location. Others find watching a tiny wildflower exciting. I liked your musing on the topic. Being two decades older than you, I find that having the kind of peace of heart and acceptance as you have is a fabulous state to be in a life.

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Molly Ella's avatar

I love how you've captured this, such good points! :)

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Philippine's avatar

Yes!! Plus whether you consider someone boring is not merely determined by their experiences, but more so, I think, by their thoughts ✨

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Jacqui du Rocher's avatar

I'm so pleased for you that you've discovered this while you're young and have the courage to live by it, and I relate to it all. It is far from boring, but is quite an adventure! Sadly it took me a long time to realise that a quiet, simple, life, living close to nature, was what I was always longing for.

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Molly Ella's avatar

Thank you for sharing Jacqui :)

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Lindsey Isla's avatar

I couldn’t relate to this more. I’m also HSP and I love having an empty calendar, otherwise I get overwhelmed. It means so much to me that you shared this. I also feel a little embarrassed to admit I’m not a holiday person either when I’m around my friends who travel all over the world. I find the airport and the getting there and back just takes away from the holiday experience anyway. A shepherd’s hut is my idea of bliss!

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Molly Ella's avatar

Aw you are certainly not alone lovely! :)

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Caroline Buck's avatar

You are my kinda person.I too have always preferred the quiet life,connected to nature far away from the fake world.That is not boring it's living a real life.

Good luck to you and thank you.

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Molly Ella's avatar

I'm so glad you enjoyed Caroline! :)

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James Williamson's avatar

"Boring", surely not. As Hemingway reminds me, "I can't stand it to think my life is going so fast and I'm not really living it."

Boring is commuting to a job that you hate, in a car you can't afford, to come home to a family you rarely see, and taking vacations in an attempt to cram lost years into fix or six days. Boring is the life you left behind.

You're just being deliberate in your slow, simple approach to living each day and coming into your own along life's journey. Soak it all in.

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Molly Ella's avatar

I so agree, thank you :)

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Emily Male's avatar

As soon as I embraced a slower, quieter life and listened to my natural instincts, I unlocked a whole other side of myself and my life - boring doesn’t equal bad, it actually equals peace, balance, calm, joy, curiosity and gratitude.

I love my boring little life. Thank you for sharing this Molly.

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Hayley Jensen's avatar

Emily, I love your verbiage - "listened to my natural instincts." I feel my absolute best when I do this, with the occasional soul and body-stretching adventure. But to live from a place of natural instinct and not force is contentment.

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Emily Male's avatar

Thank you Hayley ! I think you are so right 🙏✨

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Gillian McMurray's avatar

I love this piece. My life is much the same. The quiet life has always been my default with nature being a big part of my life. It is definitely not boring.

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Molly Ella's avatar

I agree and thank you!

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Hannah Ashe's avatar

I love this honesty and acceptance, Molly. I feel the same about much that you’ve written here. My only difference is that I do like holidays, but I like it best when I can create a routine whilst I’m there. I’m currently away in France for a month both working remotely (writing) and resting. I adore the change of scenery but am also (weirdly, perhaps) enjoying the mundane things like cleaning and doing the washing because we’re here for a longer period. I’m keeping a diary and trying to notice how it feels.

I don’t think what you describe is boring, I see it as knowing yourself and your needs and not feeling the urge to conform or please others. That’s definitely to be celebrated!

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Molly Ella's avatar

I love the idea of creating routines when away. You get the best of both worlds :)

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Savita Gupta's avatar

Oh yes, I am definitely very boring 😁! Waking up at 5am,daily routine and bedtime at 9pm. I love my boring life, because I too can't handle a tight schedule. It's too exhausting and overwhelming. How very well you have put it all into words..truly relatable!

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Molly Ella's avatar

Thank you love! :)

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Piata Wormald's avatar

Thank you for writing this Molly. It’s lovely to read more sensitive, introverted people chat about their lives in an open, inspiring and positive way.

I admire your self-acceptance and compassion which is essential for wellbeing and you’re a role model for others who seek and need a slower life.

So many sensitive people are burnt out with the demands of modern life.

On a serious note, our education system based on results and productivity does nothing to teach us growing up, how to know and care for ourselves, and our needs and how to prioritise wellbeing.

The home learning community with more space for self-directed learning allows for that and I hope your messages are heard more widely as mental health services and our education system need to transform with urgency.

I connect to and therefore support other mums/ parents healing from whole family complex trauma and follow slow living as part of our healing. My children are 23 and 17 and I hope they also feel less pressure from the demands of our hectic and rushed culture. I love the way you explain and live it in such a natural and relaxed way ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

Xx

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Molly Ella's avatar

I so agree with your points Piata, thank you! :)

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Tracey's avatar

So heart warming to read this piece as I too can relate. A calm and peaceful life fulfilled with what makes you happy. ❤️

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Molly Ella's avatar

Agreed! :)

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Wendy Padley's avatar

Oh yes, can relate totally. This is me too. Can we replace ‘boring’ with ‘real’?

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Molly Ella's avatar

Yes!

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Jess's avatar

Oh hello there fellow ‘boring’ person 👋 l resonate with this so deeply. I too am what one consider a boring person. My days look the same. I like to limit my social interactions. And my favourite night out is a night in. The question that makes me internally eye roll is the dreaded, token small talk question: “any plans for the weekend?”. I have plans but none that you might consider exciting… and I am a-okay with that 🤗

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Molly Ella's avatar

Yes! That is another common question, you're right. Love your answer :)

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Amy Cowen's avatar

I always hate questions like that, too. "So, what are your plans for the weekend?" I think I have extra anxiety going to things like dentist appointments because they are sure to have these questions as part of what seems to be "requisite" chatter. Like you said, I always feel a bit embarrassed to say "nothing" (even though that's how I like it). I often think my life must look incredibly boring from the outside. Enjoyed the post.

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Molly Ella's avatar

I'm glad you enjoyed Amy and I'm sure you're weekends are lovely :)

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Nature Retreat's avatar

Haha, my dentist always says 'how are things? Busy...busy......' and I always have to say no, not busy at all. I know what you mean about dreading the question but I'm still very happy my life is no longer busy!

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Jess's avatar

YES to the weekend question 👏. Why do I feel the need to lie when someone asks this???

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Dawn Petteford's avatar

I am 47 and feel exactly the same. It’s taken quite a while to understand my need for routine, solitude and to be with nature daily (probably only the last few years). My younger life was quite different and busy and very social but I realise now I was most likely masking. I find many others just cannot relate or understand that a quiet life is a very fulfilling and happy life. I would not change things now (well I’d live more remotely if I could)!

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Molly Ella's avatar

Yes, daily nature is so important!

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Choosing Peace's avatar

Once again you have nailed it. I hope it brings you comfort that there are so many of us that feel the same. I don’t think in any way shape or form you are boring. I think you are just being honest and true to yourself.

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Molly Ella's avatar

Aw thank you love, its so lovely to get this feedback :)

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