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Casey Hassall's avatar

Hey Molly, apologies in advance for the long message 😂

Over the past 18 months due to health issues I have lost a lot of weight and didn’t buy anything at all until I was left with nothing apart from a a few singlets and some stuff that just swum on me.

I have started buying and building a sustainable wardrobe; created a look & feel on Pinterest to curate my style; however I’ve found that now I’ve purchased quite a few things I am struggling to stop. I’m having this dopamine hit (at least I think that’s what it is) and Ive had a shopping addiction in the past and I am aware I have a really addictive personality; but then when I started shopping and building it’s like a cascade of feeling like it’s not enough I guess? Maybe this is because it hasn’t been done slowly - but quite rapid? I’m not sure 🤷🏻‍♀️

Right now I’m struggling and grappling with those urges to purchase ‘one more thing’ or ‘I still need or want’ or even seeing someone else’s sustainable wardrobe wishing you had some of their pieces!! I’ve completely deleted Instagram and jumped in that deep end as it just made me feel awful and I was off it until recently the last 3 months and it’s just pulled me back into all those bad habits of comparison (stealer of joy!)

I’m feeling incredibly guilty and have spent ALOT of money not aligned with my values of going slow; living intentionally; and things my husband and I are working towards (financial freedom and savings etc). I felt like I was beyond this and then bam I’m back into the rat race and this extreme uncomfortable feeling. I guess I feel I’ve failed myself; my husband; and I was feeling like I was getting good at letting go; being intentional and mindful but then I’ve backslid into really bad habits and now sitting in this awful discomfort of shame, guilt, looking at our savings sad, and also feeling like I still have this adrenaline to just buy more because of how I’m feeling (HOW CRAZY IS THAT 🤯)

It’s been really frustrating me. I have committed to not purchasing anything else for 6 months - hard rule for me I think until I need some new things for the season of warmer weather.

Do you have any suggestions and advice and tips?

Do you have a rule where you only have so many items in your wardrobe to keep you accountable?

Anyone else reading - feel free to chime in

Thanks lovely people and sorry for the rant 💜💜

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Molly Kate's avatar

Have been following your Youtube channel and now subscribed here, really love your work and what you are building and creating!

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