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I can definitely relate to this, I'm the same. Great to hear I'm not the only one. Like you, I do like socialising (preferring smaller groups) but I do need/want my own personal space too. Nothing wrong with this at all. For a while I realised I was slightly different to my friends (I don't drink, don't smoke, am vegan, don't really watch much TV etc, and love the outdoors), now I'm much comfortable being myself and everyone has just accepted me now. I do know quite a few people but like you, I keep my circle of friends small, just how I like it. Nice to relate to someone. x
Hi Mollie, lovely to hear from you. I believe we think we have lots of friends but if we sat and thought about I suspect the real number is quite low. Apart from my sister, I have two other females who I can really describe as true friends. One I have known for 27 years and the other 23 years. My husband is also my friend but there is certain stuff only a female friend would understand.
If my sons Instagram is anything to go by he has hundreds of friends but I know he has only one true friend that he met when he was about 5 years old. Humans are social creatures and we should live our lives true to our heart and soul. Take care x
I am 75 and have always preferred to be alone.. I do like an occasional small gathering but my mind is always wanting to go home.. I don't drink or smoke and eat absolutely no animal products meat fish,dairy or eggs we are 100% plantbased. I prefer simplicity.. I think living this way keeps your circle of friends small simply because others think its strange.. I no longer care.. those who love me are enough.
I never really thought of myself as an introvert, but the more I read about those who are, the more I realise that is me, so thank you for writing this. It does explain a lot. I can be outgoing (have to be once a week with 25 Cub Scouts!) but I really need my time alone and definitely prefer 1:1 interactions, like you, struggling to cope with the small talk of a group.
I’m exactly the same, Molly. I think I’ve always enjoyed my own company more but have only started honouring that very recently. For a long time I’ve felt like I’ve always been searching for my best friend, someone I can share everything with and just have that pure soul connection. And I’ve had that with a few people who for some reason or another I’ve lost touch with.. most of them moved to Australia 😮💨 I’ve since come to realise that my partner is the best friend I’ve always wanted!
This resonates a lot. I too prefer either one to one or small group interactions. And then I need my personal space to fill up my own cup. This pattern goes back to my childhood. Finding out about introversion was the permission slip I needed to embrace it rather than shaming for not being social enough.
Ditto! I have a small group of close friends and I’m fiercely loyal to those I love. I love deep connections and deep conversations. My 4 closest friends have been in my life for around 22-28 years. I would rather be in my own company than with sucky people xxx
I really appreciate your words here. It sounds as if you have really got it sorted. In recent years, I have become a lot more aware of my mental and physical wellbeing. I am much more careful about who I spend my time with and my energy on nowadays. I've learned to let go of relationships which no longer serve me. I feel so much better for doing so.
Hi Molly I'm the same way . I would rather have a couple of close friends. I have what I call acquaintances. I honestly can't say I have a close friend. I guess my true friend is my husband. Thanks for sharing
I'm with you on that one Cathy. My partner is my one and only true friend. It is hard to find people you truly connect with, especially when getting older.
I can definitely relate to this, I'm the same. Great to hear I'm not the only one. Like you, I do like socialising (preferring smaller groups) but I do need/want my own personal space too. Nothing wrong with this at all. For a while I realised I was slightly different to my friends (I don't drink, don't smoke, am vegan, don't really watch much TV etc, and love the outdoors), now I'm much comfortable being myself and everyone has just accepted me now. I do know quite a few people but like you, I keep my circle of friends small, just how I like it. Nice to relate to someone. x
Seems there a few like-minded souls on here! So happy to hear you are doing what's right for you :)
Hi Mollie, lovely to hear from you. I believe we think we have lots of friends but if we sat and thought about I suspect the real number is quite low. Apart from my sister, I have two other females who I can really describe as true friends. One I have known for 27 years and the other 23 years. My husband is also my friend but there is certain stuff only a female friend would understand.
If my sons Instagram is anything to go by he has hundreds of friends but I know he has only one true friend that he met when he was about 5 years old. Humans are social creatures and we should live our lives true to our heart and soul. Take care x
So true Jackie. There is a real difference between our social media 'friends' and those that we are really close to :)
Totally get this, being very much the same. 👍
I am 75 and have always preferred to be alone.. I do like an occasional small gathering but my mind is always wanting to go home.. I don't drink or smoke and eat absolutely no animal products meat fish,dairy or eggs we are 100% plantbased. I prefer simplicity.. I think living this way keeps your circle of friends small simply because others think its strange.. I no longer care.. those who love me are enough.
Such a good mindset Cindy! :)
Definitely can relate to this one. Thanks.
I'm glad :)
I never really thought of myself as an introvert, but the more I read about those who are, the more I realise that is me, so thank you for writing this. It does explain a lot. I can be outgoing (have to be once a week with 25 Cub Scouts!) but I really need my time alone and definitely prefer 1:1 interactions, like you, struggling to cope with the small talk of a group.
Continue to love your blog and YouTube.
Thank you :)
Thank you Liz! I only realised over the last couple of years that I am an introvert at heart, even if I enjoyed being extroverted at times :)
I’m exactly the same, Molly. I think I’ve always enjoyed my own company more but have only started honouring that very recently. For a long time I’ve felt like I’ve always been searching for my best friend, someone I can share everything with and just have that pure soul connection. And I’ve had that with a few people who for some reason or another I’ve lost touch with.. most of them moved to Australia 😮💨 I’ve since come to realise that my partner is the best friend I’ve always wanted!
That's a lovely story! :)
This resonates a lot. I too prefer either one to one or small group interactions. And then I need my personal space to fill up my own cup. This pattern goes back to my childhood. Finding out about introversion was the permission slip I needed to embrace it rather than shaming for not being social enough.
I agree that understanding and accepting who you are is very empowering :)
Ditto! I have a small group of close friends and I’m fiercely loyal to those I love. I love deep connections and deep conversations. My 4 closest friends have been in my life for around 22-28 years. I would rather be in my own company than with sucky people xxx
Completely agree :)
I really appreciate your words here. It sounds as if you have really got it sorted. In recent years, I have become a lot more aware of my mental and physical wellbeing. I am much more careful about who I spend my time with and my energy on nowadays. I've learned to let go of relationships which no longer serve me. I feel so much better for doing so.
I'm so glad to hear that Danielle! Congrats on making decisions that are right for you :)
Hi Molly I'm the same way . I would rather have a couple of close friends. I have what I call acquaintances. I honestly can't say I have a close friend. I guess my true friend is my husband. Thanks for sharing
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I'm with you on that one Cathy. My partner is my one and only true friend. It is hard to find people you truly connect with, especially when getting older.
So true