This is an inspiring and honest read. George would so get this as do I. I had the same experience in my career. The only thing I would add to my story is that it was mainly women with the barbed comments. I always found that very sad. If we are talking achievements then we are potentially changing the world. I did that when I gave birth to you xxx
I am an expat Scot now living in a desert climate. I enjoy a "proxy" life viewing blogs and vlogs of Scots outdoor online creators. This post reminded me so much of my younger days. I am a late diagnosed autistic woman, and that diagnosis has completely reframed my understanding of my previous foibles and experiences. I am so happy that you have discovered yourself at an earlier age and made life choices that resonate with your own perspectives. Masking yourself to sociallly fit in is exhausting and demoralising, letting go of those expectations is so liberating. Be tenacious and true to yourself. You are doing so well.....btw I rise around 5am and love the peaceful solitude....
Gosh Molly, how I relate to the unintentional bending of the truth that snowballs into full blown lies. It was a core part of people-pleasing, for me. I, too, have found that since sharing online I am learning to own my truths and be unapologetic for who I am. This was an inspiring read, thank you for sharing.
This is a really interesting read, I’ve been thinking about it all day!
I think I have learnt that people react to things they feel in some way reflects badly on them (and I say this as a person totally guilty of doing this). I have found cooking to be such a topic. Personally, I love cooking and enjoy making things from scratch. I bake all my own bread! I do it because I love it, but that doesn’t seem to go down well with some people and I’ve even received a lecture on how ‘you don’t have to make food all the time, you can just buy it and it’s just as nice’. I think, even though my motivation is enjoyment, my kitchen joy makes them feel inadequate.
And I know I’m guilty of this way of thinking at times too... hearing that you wake up at 5am can start to trigger the ‘well that’s ok for you, but..’ thought process until I remind myself that I’m only reacting that way because it pokes at my own self-perceived inadequacies. And I’ll be honest, I have morning routine envy - my morning is as set as seaweed and far too dependent on the raging tides of a 6 and 4 year old and their moods, wake-up times and whether they’ve had an accident/wake-up/incident in the night. But my envy is no reason to give you crap is it? In much the same way, I’m guessing you’re not going to lecture me about my wake-up time? So, I encourage you to continue celebrating all you do well, to never hide it and to remember that where bad reactions occur, it’s an emotional response to their own inner workings.
I love this comment! I really appreciate your honesty. You are so right that we are all guilty of feeling that the behaviour of other's reflects on our own and can become defensive. It is a perfectly human reaction, but I do try and notice it whenever I feel it myself and allow myself to reflect why this may be. Its helped me enormously :)
Thanks for your reply and yes, it’s something I try to consciously notice too. Interestingly enough, after writing my comment, my next 2 mornings went quite smoothly - my boys woke so we could eat together, they got dressed without complaint, they were ready to leave the house in good time, I had some time to read my book...Funny how things work sometimes 😊
Yes I fully understand what you are saying, I think we have all been guilty of similar in our lives. But I’m happy you are standing strong and putting out how you love to live, I do the same (not on YouTube) but I’ve no worries putting out there who I am. Don’t drink, don’t smoke, vegan, rescue little furries and I love every minute of it.
Yes! Bending the truth. Brushing things off as not a big deal even when it took time, work and/or discipline. Saying that I'm "just" a [insert job title, etc.]. I still catch myself doing this far too often.
This is a good reminder to own my accomplishments and the fact that I got up early enough to journal before heading to work ☀️
This is just as it should be imho. Perfect or imperfect, women especially should embrace, learn from and support each other in each chosen lifestyle. I am so impressed and inspired by your YouTubes and newsletter. And for the record, I’m a proud 8 am riser 🤭😉🥰.
I agree with you 100%! Good for you for being who you are and not being afraid to share that with the world. You are an inspiration and an example of female empowerment. Thank you!
It’s amazing how people will take what they perceive as your success as a threat to themselves and a comment on how they live. Watching you post about being authentically yourself has helped me to more confidently embrace and express who I am!
Oh my goodness I can really relate. As a teen And Always wanting to fit in I used to tell people I had to be home because I didn’t want to go. I’m am so very happy being home
Love your words and I have had similar experiences. It saddens me when other women are the ‘attackers’. I’m old enough now not to care and live my life how I choose to, on my terms with no need to make up an excuse. I love that you are enjoying life. Your words always inspire me.
Whether it's minimizing our achievements or -- the opposite side of the coin -- conflating them, lying blocks us from the truth of our selves. Yay for your standing up for truth, Molly!
Hello Molly. I may sadly come across as a stalker as I watch your (brilliant) UTube channel but cannot subscribe or like as I am using someone else’s iPad. I’m hoping to get my own in the future. I love that you have learned to relax in your skin at such a young age. Bravo! I’m in my 60’s and the real joy of ageing has been casting off the worry of what others think or how they may respond. Not that I am mean or thoughtless, more that by living true to myself it may give others the opportunity to do the same.
The only good thing about having a history of lying or expanding a truth, is that helps develop your writers muscles!!
Keep enjoying your life Molly, you are an inspiration.
While I am a 67 year old public school educated male, I have strong memories of peer-pressure causing me to bring myself down to the "average." Even in the military, and later, college.
I am a proud autodidactic polymath.
I dropped out of the high achiever/lower bar culture when I was in my mid 40's and working as a software engineer. I finally got fed up with the multiple letters after the name game. Especially since I was self taught and more competent than most.
Never feel bad about being "too perfect," just be yourself xand help those you can.
I felt this, Molly! I often lie about what I write about, and what I’m passionate about to other people I meet in person. I know they won’t understand what I do, and I just don’t want to justify or explain myself sometimes. I’ve gotten quite good at finding the people who’ll understand the concept of simple living, and also at finding those who’ll just completely pick it apart and tell me how it won’t work.
Thank you for sharing this post! And I’m so pleased that you do turn up here and be your true authentic, because your words inspire me and your way of life that you share brings me so much joy and contentment. Keep being you! 🤍
This is an inspiring and honest read. George would so get this as do I. I had the same experience in my career. The only thing I would add to my story is that it was mainly women with the barbed comments. I always found that very sad. If we are talking achievements then we are potentially changing the world. I did that when I gave birth to you xxx
You've done far more than that mother! xxx
I am an expat Scot now living in a desert climate. I enjoy a "proxy" life viewing blogs and vlogs of Scots outdoor online creators. This post reminded me so much of my younger days. I am a late diagnosed autistic woman, and that diagnosis has completely reframed my understanding of my previous foibles and experiences. I am so happy that you have discovered yourself at an earlier age and made life choices that resonate with your own perspectives. Masking yourself to sociallly fit in is exhausting and demoralising, letting go of those expectations is so liberating. Be tenacious and true to yourself. You are doing so well.....btw I rise around 5am and love the peaceful solitude....
Thank you so much for sharing your experience! :)
Gosh Molly, how I relate to the unintentional bending of the truth that snowballs into full blown lies. It was a core part of people-pleasing, for me. I, too, have found that since sharing online I am learning to own my truths and be unapologetic for who I am. This was an inspiring read, thank you for sharing.
Thank you for sharing your experience! I'm sure its more comment than we think...
This is a really interesting read, I’ve been thinking about it all day!
I think I have learnt that people react to things they feel in some way reflects badly on them (and I say this as a person totally guilty of doing this). I have found cooking to be such a topic. Personally, I love cooking and enjoy making things from scratch. I bake all my own bread! I do it because I love it, but that doesn’t seem to go down well with some people and I’ve even received a lecture on how ‘you don’t have to make food all the time, you can just buy it and it’s just as nice’. I think, even though my motivation is enjoyment, my kitchen joy makes them feel inadequate.
And I know I’m guilty of this way of thinking at times too... hearing that you wake up at 5am can start to trigger the ‘well that’s ok for you, but..’ thought process until I remind myself that I’m only reacting that way because it pokes at my own self-perceived inadequacies. And I’ll be honest, I have morning routine envy - my morning is as set as seaweed and far too dependent on the raging tides of a 6 and 4 year old and their moods, wake-up times and whether they’ve had an accident/wake-up/incident in the night. But my envy is no reason to give you crap is it? In much the same way, I’m guessing you’re not going to lecture me about my wake-up time? So, I encourage you to continue celebrating all you do well, to never hide it and to remember that where bad reactions occur, it’s an emotional response to their own inner workings.
I love this comment! I really appreciate your honesty. You are so right that we are all guilty of feeling that the behaviour of other's reflects on our own and can become defensive. It is a perfectly human reaction, but I do try and notice it whenever I feel it myself and allow myself to reflect why this may be. Its helped me enormously :)
Thanks for your reply and yes, it’s something I try to consciously notice too. Interestingly enough, after writing my comment, my next 2 mornings went quite smoothly - my boys woke so we could eat together, they got dressed without complaint, they were ready to leave the house in good time, I had some time to read my book...Funny how things work sometimes 😊
I adore this turn of phrase! : "my morning is as set as seaweed" lol.
Thank you!! It’s definitely how it feels, one moment I think we’re all sorted, then the tide turns and it’s all over the place again 😂
Yes I fully understand what you are saying, I think we have all been guilty of similar in our lives. But I’m happy you are standing strong and putting out how you love to live, I do the same (not on YouTube) but I’ve no worries putting out there who I am. Don’t drink, don’t smoke, vegan, rescue little furries and I love every minute of it.
What a wonderful mindset :)
Yes! Bending the truth. Brushing things off as not a big deal even when it took time, work and/or discipline. Saying that I'm "just" a [insert job title, etc.]. I still catch myself doing this far too often.
This is a good reminder to own my accomplishments and the fact that I got up early enough to journal before heading to work ☀️
I'm glad you enjoyed! :)
Thanks for being honest :)
This is just as it should be imho. Perfect or imperfect, women especially should embrace, learn from and support each other in each chosen lifestyle. I am so impressed and inspired by your YouTubes and newsletter. And for the record, I’m a proud 8 am riser 🤭😉🥰.
I completely agree! :)
I agree with you 100%! Good for you for being who you are and not being afraid to share that with the world. You are an inspiration and an example of female empowerment. Thank you!
Thank you! :)
It’s amazing how people will take what they perceive as your success as a threat to themselves and a comment on how they live. Watching you post about being authentically yourself has helped me to more confidently embrace and express who I am!
I'm so happy to hear that! :)
Oh my goodness I can really relate. As a teen And Always wanting to fit in I used to tell people I had to be home because I didn’t want to go. I’m am so very happy being home
Love your words and I have had similar experiences. It saddens me when other women are the ‘attackers’. I’m old enough now not to care and live my life how I choose to, on my terms with no need to make up an excuse. I love that you are enjoying life. Your words always inspire me.
That's amazing to hear! :)
Whether it's minimizing our achievements or -- the opposite side of the coin -- conflating them, lying blocks us from the truth of our selves. Yay for your standing up for truth, Molly!
Thank you! :)
Hello Molly. I may sadly come across as a stalker as I watch your (brilliant) UTube channel but cannot subscribe or like as I am using someone else’s iPad. I’m hoping to get my own in the future. I love that you have learned to relax in your skin at such a young age. Bravo! I’m in my 60’s and the real joy of ageing has been casting off the worry of what others think or how they may respond. Not that I am mean or thoughtless, more that by living true to myself it may give others the opportunity to do the same.
The only good thing about having a history of lying or expanding a truth, is that helps develop your writers muscles!!
Keep enjoying your life Molly, you are an inspiration.
Thank you for sharing! :)
While I am a 67 year old public school educated male, I have strong memories of peer-pressure causing me to bring myself down to the "average." Even in the military, and later, college.
I am a proud autodidactic polymath.
I dropped out of the high achiever/lower bar culture when I was in my mid 40's and working as a software engineer. I finally got fed up with the multiple letters after the name game. Especially since I was self taught and more competent than most.
Never feel bad about being "too perfect," just be yourself xand help those you can.
Thank you for sharing your experience :)
I felt this, Molly! I often lie about what I write about, and what I’m passionate about to other people I meet in person. I know they won’t understand what I do, and I just don’t want to justify or explain myself sometimes. I’ve gotten quite good at finding the people who’ll understand the concept of simple living, and also at finding those who’ll just completely pick it apart and tell me how it won’t work.
Thank you for sharing this post! And I’m so pleased that you do turn up here and be your true authentic, because your words inspire me and your way of life that you share brings me so much joy and contentment. Keep being you! 🤍
Thank you so much for sharing your experience lovely! I can complete relate to the struggle of explaining why I create content online sometimes! :)